I’m sure that you all are familiar with this quote “No man is an island.” It just simply means that we cannot live alone. We’re not created to live by ourselves and for ourselves. We need each other to survive, live, and enjoy life. Each and everyone of us has something to contribute, something valuable to offer, to make this world a better place to live in.
This is why social networking has become such a huge hit because it is all based around the concept of building relationships.
Believe it or not, we are who we are today because of the influence of people who surround us…our families, friends, and business relationships or relationships in our workplace. There is so much power in association.
Our knowledge and experiences have been contributed by other people whether it’s through personal affiliation or through books. On the other hand, people that we surround with may have one way or another learned something significant from us which made a difference in them.
But as much as the effects of associating with other people is powerful, you must choose wisely on who you will associate yourself with.
Keep in mind two powerful and ever truthful quotes:
#1: Tell me who your friends are and I will tell you who you are.
#2: Birds of same feathers flock together.
Eagles fly with eagles. You never seem them hanging out with chickens. Ducks with ducks, sparrows with sparrows, pigeons with pigeons.
When you become friends with someone, you allow that person to influence you, to contribute to your learning process, to provide value in your experience in life, and vice versa. That’s why it’s important to surround yourself with like-minded people.
See if you hang with people who constantly think negative stuff, it’s only a matter of time before you find yourself thinking constantly about negative things too. If you hang with people who whine about other people or about their situation, before you knew it, you’re the same way. Remember that you can only give whatever you have. So if what you have is just negative, then those people that have allowed you to surround them will only receive negative from you. It’s a chain reaction. A domino effect.
Let me tell you a quick illustration. Ever been to the poolside and a friend of yours asked you to help them get out of the pool? See it takes a lot of strength to pull your friend out of the pool and lot of resistance on your part not to fall. It’s easier for your friend to pull you down than for you to get him or her out of it. It’s the same thing in association, same thing in friendships and other type of relationships. It’s easier to be pulled to the negative side unless you’re the stronger one.
That’s why it’s important to choose your company wisely and the good news is you have the power to do so.
This does not mean though that you will not make yourself available for those who are less stronger than you are or have less knowledge than you do. Because at one point in our lives, someone stronger than us, someone better than us, someone more experienced and more knowledgeable than us, invested their time and knowledge in influencing us.
The key is to create a good balance in your associations.
If you’re a starting entrepreneur, make sure to associate yourself with like-minded people. Read books from great and inspirational authors. Join a social networking tribe. For those who are already in the business, evaluate your current relationships and start pruning those unhealthy ones!
Remember that you have the power to influence people and vice versa!